Breaking Up Is So Good For You

This is my unpopular opinion: breaking up is so good for you! You will feel so much better in the long run after you break up. Of course, you need to let yourself feel typical breakup emotions first. What I mean by this is shock, anger, disbelief, loss, and sadness. You will feel some, none, or all of these. But, if you let yourself feel shitty and cry it out and eat ice cream for a few days you will suddenly feel much better. You’ll start thinking about the times your partner shocked, angered, disappointed, ignored, and left you feeling unsatisfied with your life. You will see that you are better off without this person. 

However, that doesn’t mean you didn’t love this person. Or have fun with this person, explore with this person, and make good, life changing, positive memories with this person. But you will ultimately know that that phase of your life is over, and like it or not, this person changed you.

But, now you know better. Now you’re by yourself. And you’re managing life on your own now. And that’s okay! You shouldn’t need anyone but yourself, at least in the romance department. This is such a good time in your life! You get to experiment! Decorate your apartment differently, sleep in, go to bed whenever, cook what you want, fill your evenings with peace and quiet rather than sharing space with someone, have a one night stand with someone hot! Do whatever the heck you want! You get control of the memories you make. You get to decide what delights and entertains you. You can run your home how you want. You get to explore and experiment, see what excites you! I am so excited for you being newly single! It is so much fun!